At first let me tell you, we all have been through this and it might get nasty if you do big mistake and you can even lose your girl!
So be prepared and know what to do, because it is essential to know How to Meet Your Girlfriends Parents.
In some cultures it is so important to make a good impression on her parents that it can decide, if the relationship continues or not.
Just imagine, how parents of your girl can influence her, they can:
- Tell her nasty things about you, all the time and therefore influence her decision!
- Try to forbid her meeting you
- Badmouth you before other people
- Do spiteful actions like being intentionally at home, when you want to be alone with her
- Force her to work or do something else instead of meeting you
- And much more.
You can already see they can have a big impact on her, in worse scenario, the girl still lives by them. If it’s the case, then it is more complicated as they have really strong influence on her but on the other side do not be overly happy if she lives alone far, far from them. They will probably still have huge influence on her as she probably speaks with her mom for long hours on phone every week! If the mom doesn’t like you, you still can have a tough time!
How to make a good impression on her parents
You would definitely like to make a good impression on parents of your girl. As I explained the disadvantages of having bad relationship with her parents, there is the opposite case and that’s having a great relationship with her parents. Just imagine the advantages:
- They will tell to your girl, how awesome you are, even when she’s mad at you, it can even save a break up at times!
- You can attend social events with them, have new friends or even business partners, be prepared to also meet other people because of their connections
- Her mom and dad could give you great advices, which are really hard to find in a book
- They can share positive information about your person
- They can buy stuff for you two
- And much more…
So I guess you see, that having such allies is really worth it. Which one would you like more? I’m confident, that you will pick the latter one.
You should remember this:
- Building great relationship takes effort, it won’t happen by itself!
- You simply have to invest your time in it, to make it better, the energy would transfer and returns in a positive way, trust me or at least will improve the relationship.
- There is also something like having neutral relationship with her parents, but it doesn’t meet that you shouldn’t try your best, in fact you sometimes can fight really hard, just to achieve this ‘neutral’ relationship status between you two. As you expect lot of dads won’t be very happy if some boy kisses and sleeps with her little angel.
- We all like to have happy parents, your girl, you and even themselves want to be happy, so it is good idea to help them get there.
So you ask, how to meet parents of your girl for the first time? Make a great impression, what I would recommend you doing before the first meeting would be:
- Checking that you know all the information she told you about them
- You know all the information around the specific meeting – like where does it take place, how much meal costs there, what the surrounding is, which meals are good there. If you have some kind of allergy, you have to inform your girl so she can inform her parents about it
- You can even ask your girl to provide you some information about your parents, like your father’s car, what they do for living etc.
- Guess, what they are like as a people, what for standards do they expect of you
- Dress accordingly to that, needless to say, you should always feel comfortable in your clothes though, so try to find a compromise
- Other than that, realize your mistakes, maybe you tend to say something inappropriate at times, so try to think twice before saying something too quickly
- Usually people, who speak slowly are perceived as wise and attractive, so take your time
- Smile and look at their eyes when speaking
- Speak about her daughter in a positive way and try to make references on, what your girl told you about them (it should be positive of course)
- Don’t force yourself to anything, if you e.g. really do not like something, don’t eat it and say something polite
- Try to speak about what is interesting for them (much better if it’s also interesting for you)
- Speak good about yourself, you have hobbies and things you would like to achieve in life
- Be a great and engaged listener of them
- Ask about things and be naturally interested, you can also learn some stuff, which is going to be valuable later in the life for you
- Be nice, talk about people in a positive way, when you have to say something negative, rather omit it at all. Remember, this is the first meeting
There are also few don’ts:
- Don’t show off
- Don’t boast
- Don’t act cocky
- Don’t interrupt their speech
- Don’t act as if you know everything
- Don’t french kiss you girl in front of them, you do not want them to thing, it’s all about sex between you two
- Before leaving, if there is a right time for it, try inviting them somewhere. It might be the game of your team, dinner at your place or some gallery you wanted to see. It is quite possible, they will refuse, but still you make a good impression. You and your girl should get the green light there
Conclusion
Now you see there is quite a long checklist, what you either can or cannot do right. Remember practice makes perfect and if you are going to fail this time, do not worry, you will definitely come back stronger. If you lost your girl because of her parents or if they were not involved at all, it really doesn’t matter, your goal should be making the relationship with her parents as good as possible, every time! Hopefully you gained some confidence now and you will finally know, how to meet parents of your current or future girlfriend, because if you continue reading the articles here, you will soon likely have a girlfriend. Keep practicing and thinking about the stuff I mentioned and soon, it will come natural to you, because in fact her parents are just other people and similar rules apply.
Next time, we will bring you an article called How to handle difficult parents, when something when wrong between the two sides, there is always a possibility to remedy this situation, you are going to learn what to do, if the relationship with your girl’s parents and its overall management isn’t the walk in the park, you once dreamt of.
