In this article, we are going to talk about conversation openers, which can be used in pick up (therefore pick up openers or more commonly pick up lines).
There are many opinions on pick up openers, some are convinced that a great pick up lines are necessary in the process of women pick up.
Other group of people thinks, that pick up lines are worthless and guys using them come out as cheesy or even sleazy. Be it either way, one thing is undeniable, namely that pick up lines are used very often. But is it good thing, or would it be better without them? Probably without, because there are not many guys, who mastered this art and therefore, guys are often unsuccessful and embarrassing, mostly because they just don’t do it right.
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What are pick up openers (pick up lines)?
I bet you were, like us, always thinking about, how to talk to a girl stranger, with whom you never talked before and didn’t know what to say, because you felt, you would say something embarrassing or inappropriate. Maybe you are the guy who overthinks stuff, isn’t able to come up with awesome spontaneous phrases when talking to women. So for you, a certain preparation would be good, pick up openers are going to be great for you, if applied correctly!
As defined by Wikipedia: Pick up line is a conversation opener with the intent of engaging an unfamiliar person for romance, or dating.
How such an opener looks like?
Do we know each other? What/Why? Cause you look a lot like my next girlfriend.
Can I borrow a map? – What/Why? (Because) I’m getting lost in your eyes.
If beauty were time, you’d be forever.
As you can see some of the pick up openers require girl to answer and some of them don’t. It is hard to determine, which kind of lines works better, we think using the first one is going to be better as the girl is at least little bit involved and would be interested to hear the answer as opposed to the second statement, where the girl might overhear the whole thing, or wouldn’t be able to fully grasp it in the given timeframe.
The purpose of pick up lines is to:
Start the conversation and continue then
Be funny, make her smile
Be original
Present yourself as gutsy and self-confident
Make an impression on the girl by showing her the originality
Tune the girl into a good mood
The issue with pick up openers is that they can be messed up in various ways:
Guy stutters while saying the line
The guy forgets what he wanted to say or doesn’t remember the whole sentence
It comes in a bad time, when the girls is engaged in other way
The sentence gets overheard
Pick up opener is contextually wrong
His opener is widely known and unoriginal
The guy doesn’t have enough self confidence to present the line correctly
And many other ways to fail…
How girls perceive pick up openers?
It is has been proven oWoman scanning you (pick up openers)ver and over again, that girls like honesty and authenticity. And that is problem of these openers, as they are often coming from sources known to everybody, so if a girl hears one phrase over and over again, it is definitely not good for the guy. She might even hear the phrase from her friends, as girls use to talk about guys and their experiences pretty often. By using unoriginal pick up opener, while being serious, he shows that he’s not original and automatically lowers his value in the girls’ eyes. Actually originality and spontaneity are very desired features of a man. Using stupid pick up openers doesn’t only show lack of originality but low self-esteem too. The immediate thinking process of the girl is going to be something like: “Why, he has to use such well known stupid stuff, doesn’t he have enough self confidence to talk to me naturally”? And that is another thing – self confidence, by being original and sticking to his own stuff, a guy shows his self-esteem and value.
Girls are usually processing information differently, not analyzing the sentence alone that much, but rather the tone it has to be said with, they are very good in recognizing energy that goes with the spoken line, so she can feel if the guy is not confident while saying the pick up line. Some guys even think, that those pick up lines are stupid, that they don’t work and that it all is going to be embarrassing and they don’t want to be there. You see? Even with such mindsets some guys try to approach women. Guess how they will look like? The girl is going to feel the desperateness of this guy miles away and he will come up as very low value. If there are friends around, he may even become ‘loser’ and ‘clown’ and they will refer to him, when debating wimps, during the whole night. That is definitely now what you want. But what to do against it? The guy has to be authentic while using the pick up lines, in fact, the guy has to be authentic even when not using pick up lines.
Becoming confident user of pick up openers
As any other activity, even usage of pick up lines requires practice, so they are not going to appear as forced or not authentic. By continuous practice, the guy gains the mastery to use them efficiently in a way, that they don’t appear as forced. If the guy learns more advanced lines, which are not that well known and will master their usage in particular moments, he will appear as spontaneous, original and funny guy, and she probably didn’t meet many of those in her life. It is important to present them as they look like made right in that moment by the guy, that is going to be a win basically and it will open possibilities for other conversation.
Conclusion
Basically pick up openers are not essential, you can very well live without them, if you obtain the ability to react spontaneously and quickly in the moment, then you will discover that you will make PERFECT pick up lines, just by yourself. Also by learning and practicing using them, you will eventually gain this ability a will be able to come up with your own. Good luck using them.
